Dirty slut dating

29 Jan

Take Rehtaeh Parsons of Canada, who was allegedly raped by four boys who distributed photos of the attack online. Boys she didn’t know started texting her and Facebooking her, asking her to have sex with them. People texted her all the time, saying ‘Will you have sex with me?

And using them just validates the societal standard of a perfect, virginal-until-marriage, demure woman as an ideal.

I’ve often asked myself “What can we do about this nasty, negative word choice that is so standard in our culture?

She was afterwards bullied and slut-shamed mercilessly by her peers to the point where she decided to take her own life at 17 years of age. ’ Girls texting, saying, ‘You’re such a slut.’” This story is a modern tragedy, fueled by cyber-bullying and slut-shaming.

Her mother, Leah Parsons, told Canadian news source CBC, “She was never left alone. The girls and boys who taunted Rehtaeh so cruelly probably had no idea how deep their words cut until it was too late. Why did other girls – – call her a slut and disown her as a friend?

We condemn our sexual thoughts as slutty instead of explorative.As a culture, we are quick to use words that paint female sexuality as disgraceful – even if we don’t realize that we are doing it. And more importantly, what consequences do your words really have? Or would you use a more negative term like “slutty?No doubt, it still carries weight if said with malicious intent.